gratification monkey

"... I had a little bit of an epiphany -- that I don't think non-procrastinators exist. That's right -- I think all of you are procrastinators. Now, you might not all be a mess, like some of us, and some of you may have a healthy relationship with deadlines, but remember: the Monkey's sneakiest trick is when the deadlines aren't there.

Now, I want to show you one last thing. I call this a Life Calendar. That's one box for every week of a 90-year life. That's not that many boxes, especially since we've already used a bunch of those. So I think we need to all take a long, hard look at that calendar. We need to think about what we're really procrastinating on, because everyone is procrastinating on something in life. We need to stay aware of the Instant Gratification Monkey. That's a job for all of us. And because there's not that many boxes on there, it's a job that should probably start today." 

no external input

"We have this sort of thing called 'ambient intimacy'. It's not that we're always connected to everybody, but at anytime we can connect to anyone we want...

...But people aren't taking time for mental reflection anymore. And really, when you have no external input, that is a time when there is a creation of self. When you can try and figure out who you really are.

...You see people using phones in 'non-places', something that you don't have a relation, or a history, or identity in. The phone itself has more elation, history, and identity to you than an airport or a highway. You often find people using their phones in these 'inhuman' places in order to get back some of that humanity that's been put on pause."


"...becoming aware of this general imposture that concerns all of us would ease our love relationships. It is because I want to be loved from head to toe, justified in my every choice, that the seduction hysteria exists. And therefore I want to seem perfect so that another can love me. I want them to be perfect so that I can be reassured of my value."

-- Yann Dall'Aglio, "Love -- you're doing it wrong" (TEDxParis , Oct 2012)