"Just because they're happy together, doesn't mean they're not sleeping with others."

“You mean as in Dan Savage’s idea that marriages should be non-monogamous? I can’t really see it working for heterosexual couples. — Not yet, but we couldn’t see premarital sex once either. We are a generation that believes in self-fulfillment, but also in commitment, and in their negotiations between these two ideas they will come up with new negotiations around monogamy...It doesn’t mean it will fit everybody. But I do believe it’s the next frontier.”

— "Why We Cheat" via Slate Magazine

"To argue that our ancestors were sexual omnivores is no more a criticism of monogamy than to argue that our ancestors were dietary omnivores is a criticism of vegetarianism. You can choose to be a vegetarian but don’t think that bacon just suddenly stops smelling good.

…Human sexuality is first a bonding device, and only secondarily, procreation. This matters because our evolved sexuality is in direct conflict with many aspects of the modern world. The contradictions between what we’re told we should feel and what we actually do feel generate a huge amount of unnecessary suffering.

My hope is that a more accurate, updated understanding of human sexuality will lead us to have greater tolerance for ourselves, for each other; greater respect for unconventional relationship configurations…; and that we’ll finally put to rest the idea that men have some innate, instinctive right to monitor and control women’s sexual behavior.

…We’ll recognize that our fight is not with each other, our fight is with an outdated victorian sense of human sexuality that conflates desire with property right, generates shame and confusion in place of understanding and empathy. It’s time we move beyond mars and venus.  Because the truth is that men are from Africa, and women are from Africa.”

Are we designed to be sexual omnivores?