"To argue that our ancestors were sexual omnivores is no more a criticism of monogamy than to argue that our ancestors were dietary omnivores is a criticism of vegetarianism. You can choose to be a vegetarian but don’t think that bacon just suddenly stops smelling good.
…Human sexuality is first a bonding device, and only secondarily, procreation. This matters because our evolved sexuality is in direct conflict with many aspects of the modern world. The contradictions between what we’re told we should feel and what we actually do feel generate a huge amount of unnecessary suffering.
My hope is that a more accurate, updated understanding of human sexuality will lead us to have greater tolerance for ourselves, for each other; greater respect for unconventional relationship configurations…; and that we’ll finally put to rest the idea that men have some innate, instinctive right to monitor and control women’s sexual behavior.
…We’ll recognize that our fight is not with each other, our fight is with an outdated victorian sense of human sexuality that conflates desire with property right, generates shame and confusion in place of understanding and empathy. It’s time we move beyond mars and venus. Because the truth is that men are from Africa, and women are from Africa.”