From "The Problem With Sheryl Sandberg’s ‘Ban Bossy’ Campaign" in this AM's NYMag:
The main reason I can’t stomach a bossy ban, though, is that it represents a feminist strategy that’s failed in the past, and it plays into a negative characterization of feminism more generally. The movement for gender equality is at its best when it emphasizes expanding choices for everyone.
Culture is a constantly changing thing that we create and shape collectively, not a set of rules that are formally written and rewritten by some governing body.
Which is why it’s so frustrating to watch Lean In try to expand girls’ options by restricting the way we talk about them. It’s counterintuitive, and it makes feminists look like thought police rather than the expansive forward-thinkers we really are.
An solid response/synopsis: "If you cut [the word 'bossy'] out [of our vocabulary], it makes it more taboo. If you own it (like 'slut'), it gives it more power." - Katie